True Confession: How married man I met on BBM almost killed me with drugged drinks, sex

The role of the social media in building relationships and businesses cannot be overemphasised. But the negative aspects seem to be growing with mixed reactions after the death of Cynthia Osokogu who was killed by friends she met on social media.

Since the case of Cynthia went viral, ladies who were before now ashamed to share their experiences in the hands of bad guys have started talking.

Below is the near-death experience a young lady had with a man who was her BBM friend:

I am a girl who has fears, beliefs, reservations and just your regular typical Nigerian girl. This past few weeks has been one hell of a game for me. I have really been unsettled and I thought I share this story with you.

When Cynthia (the lady killed in the hotel room in Festac, Lagos) surfaced on the internet and various news media, I was scared and it brought back a whole lot of memories to me and also served as and eye opener. Many people castigated and criticised Cynthia (may her gentle soul rest in peace), but my point is, it could have been anybody, anybody at all.

We have met people through various social media. Some have ended up well, some have not but with painful memories. To cut the long story short, let me kindly share with you my encounter with social media especially the very popular Blackberry Messenger (BBM).

I am a graduate and currently serving in Kaduna. I could have runced it, but I needed somewhere to clear my head and forget about my ugly encounter. Here is my story.

I happened to have a married man as a contact on my BBM. He had been asking me out for over six months and I refused to date him. As time went on, he invited me clubbing with him when his wife was outside the country, and I went with him all night. We spent most of the night at Swe bar, Lagos.

I also met his clique of friends, married as well with their various mistresses. We had ‘mad’ fun. After all the clubbing and drinking, he lodged me in a hotel somewhere in Obalende. I felt sort of safe with him. We did not have sex, but he made sweet love to me and touched me in places I had never ever imagined.

He kissed me passionately but guess what? He did not have sex with me. We did all sorts but there was no penetration. So, to an extent, I trusted he was a good person to be around with. I did not know that it was all part of the plan.

He gave me N10,000 and put me in a cab to go home the next morning. We kept talking and chatting and sending naked pictures to each other and he told me naughty things of how he wanted to whisper things in my ear, I blushed. We didn’t see for two weeks and that was because his wife just came back from Turkey.

One faithful evening, he pinged me that he was organising a beach party/boat cruise and that he would love for me to be his date and that he wanted to open a BBM chat, as a medium for his friends and my friends to interact. I was excited about it, I just wanted to have fun. I was able to get five of my very hot friends.

The BBM group opened and we got chatting. I also realise that majority of them were married and working in reputable firms. It was fun and we didn’t mind if they were married, we just wanted to have fun, as well as some other girls apart from my friends in the group.

We chatted exclusively, sent pictures to the BBM group to introduce ourselves, and we had opened group conversations pending the beach party. And as excited as we were, we went shopping for nice sexy beach wears.

The D-day finally came, we all assembled at the Lagos Island Boat Club. I was wowed because it was a high class party. We were cruising in a boat loaded with goodies drinks and hot babes, and as well ‘MARRIED MEN’. I did not care, I just said in my mind that I would not roll with married men anymore after this, that for now, all I wanted to do was to catch some fun. After all, I wasn’t paying bills.

We got there, it was a private beach resort. Most of the beach facilities I got to see there were owned by multinational companies. We got out of the boat, and went to where we were partying. It was a duplex made with wood. It was a very nice setting.

I felt comfortable because it even had a fence around it separating it from other beach houses around. So, there was privacy and of course bouncers (heavy looking guys) guarding the place. I said to myself, this must be heaven, I must be dreaming.

Anyways, we felt free with each other because we had been chatting. It was 5:30pm and the party just started. We had drinks flowing from the private bar tender which happens to be owned by one of the men in the group. Reality struck when I realised that I was feeling dizzy and feeling really funny and light headed. Not only me, but other girls around me too noticed there was something strange about it.

I was also feeling HORNY as hell! I had been drugged. They monitored us and when they knew the drug had really gone deep into our system, they moved us up into the main beach house. I could still see faces, but was too weak and horny to react.

Mr B, the man who took me clubbing, carried me in his hands like a sacrifice and put me down on the floor just as other men also did with their girls. We were eight in numbers; 8 girls, 8 guys, and they all stripped us down and had sex with us.

I enjoyed it a bit because I was horny. It was a mixed feeling because I cried, I moaned, but I did not know how many times he came into me. He pounded me hard. I was dizzy, but he grabbed me with force. All I could notice was the wedding ring on his finger. I thought of how wicked and miserable some married can be. How inhuman and heartless they could be.

All of them took turns in switching partners and slept with all of us. I passed out. That was the last thing I could remember. I felt water poured on me. I noticed all the other girls around me too were half naked and some stark naked.

We spent the night at the beach, but the men were no where to be found. I looked round me and all I could see was packs of used condoms. I ran to pick my cloths and possibly raise an alarm. I got dressed, found my phone with an envelope. It contained N16,000 and a note asking us to take N2000 each for transport. Tears of anger and rage filled my eyes and the girls around me as well.

“We were drugged and used like tissue paper. I grabbed my phone and noticed a ping came in. I checked my phone and I noticed the BBM group had been deleted, and a message via BBM from MR B came in. He threatened me that if I say a word to anyone, I would regret it.

I told him he was a bastard, and he said try it. A picture came in, several pictures. In fact, they were pictures of us being naked on the floor. Pictures of the humiliating us but they blurred the faces of the men. In total, I got 20 pictures. I was not myself for a month.

I went back to school, I had no one to talk to. The rest of the semester was hell for me. My CGPA dropped drastically. It was the worst out of the worst result I ever had.

Till today, my friends and I have not discussed this with anyone, but all I could do when I heard of Cynthia’s story was to narrate my own ordeal anonymously and spread the news, the word, and pray they (ladies who do runs) see it and changed their ways.

I am now born again. I have given my life to Christ. I fear men so much that I cannot even move close to them. I still have nightmares, but with time, God will strengthen me and I will move on. My advice to single ladies out there is, do not be desperate for fun. Pray to God to open your eyes of understanding, and pray hard. He who kneels before God will stand before kings and queens.

To all married women, pray hard to God to intervene in your marriages and turn your husbands from bad habits and bad friends. As for me, I do not think I ever want to get married or date a man again. That chapter has been closed for good in my life.

Please, do not ignore my mail. Please post it. There are a lot of things we ladies need to learn. Please post it on your blog and save a soul. It could be your friend, sister, cousin, neighbour.

God bless you as you pass it on. To all readers, I do not care if you insult me or rain abuses at me. My job is to share this encounter with you and save you from any mishap. God bless you all. Amen.

Female Orgasm (adult content)

First I’d have to start by defining “Love Making” in my own language. “Love making is an art, the lady is the canvas and the man the painter. If painted properly and with care, you end up with a master piece that can last as long as the Mona Lisa”. I’m so tired of hearing inexperienced guys come in the bar or wherever, and brag about how they made her want more only to eavesdrop on the conversation and I just feel sorry for the Lady. Guys I’m not saying you are not giving your woman what she needs or how she wants it, I’m just going to say the truth and if you feel it’s directed to you then just learn from what I’d explain here. It is said that 85 percent of African women go through their life time without having an orgasm just because most African men would skip foreplay, oral sex to just sex.

Now I got the guys thinking and some cocky guys saying hell no I get her to cum all the time. Okay I have heard so many guys brag and say I did it so fast, she was moaning and came, she told me she came too, and I saw so much wet stuff there. Huh? Is that your definition? Then I’m really really sorry she doesn’t want to hurt your ego. When a woman gets to have an Orgasm you will know if you are experienced, it is the dumbest thing to ask your woman “baby did you cum”? As her man you have to know when she did and how to get her there. Just because your woman is really wet doesn’t mean she just came, it means she is aroused and wants you to perform your duty as her man. Guys come on! don’t think that you stick a finger or two for 15 seconds pinch her nipples for 9 seconds suck on her breast 6 seconds and the penetrate her will make her have an orgasm. That’s just being plain selfish and uncaring.

A woman’s orgasm is different from we guys who could afford to burst a nut just by watching porn, a woman’s orgasm has to be built up to the point she can’t take it no more and explodes with pleasure. For the nerds a lady’s orgasm is like charging a dead phone to the point it’s full and the light indicators start going off with an alarm. Now I know some guys reading will say what the hell are you feeling like?

Okay guys, if your girl just had an orgasm she would not have the strength to stand up and dress up 15 seconds after you think she just came and say “I’m going home”. When a woman reaches her orgasm, her heart rate, blood pressure and breathing increase. Tension builds within her pelvis, muscles contract throughout her body especially in the vagina which is accompanied with series of contractions. Contractions also occur in the uterus, rectum and pelvic floor. Occasional speaking in tongues you never heard, Grabbing of your sheets, Toe curling up like she about to have mad cramps or mild stroke, Scratches on your back, Love marks from her biting your arm because she doesn’t want to scream out loud. She ends up having a good sleep afterwards. Yeah trust me a lot goes on.

Now the good guys who care about their woman are ready to ask me, hey how do we achieve all these in bed? It’s simple son. Good communication in the bedroom with your woman will help you a lot; don’t assume that screwing your finger in her or finger banging her here and there like you are searching for coins in vagina is fun to her. Ask her how she wants her body touched, ask her how hard she wants her nipples bitten, sucked, licked or pinched because it’s different strokes for different folks after all, ask her how to play with her clitoris and how she wants it licked, nibbled, eaten etc. when you go down on her. Don’t just assume. A woman’s body differs from the long shaft in our boxers.

For all those guys that just skip foreplay and head to sex, I’m really sorry for you because when she comes in contact to the real deal, you would be an ex soon. 75 percent of women say they achieve orgasm via oral sex almost every time it is done well. Dudes don’t be selfish and expect her to give you a blow job when you not ready to down and eat the hell out of her pum pum and even when you do, you just go down and give it 5 licks and you are up. 5 licks!!!??? Come on son, spend some quality time down there and give her the best oral sex she ever had, occasionally look up and watch her flap her legs around like butterflies and see the gyration of her waste from so much pleasure, then when she gets an orgasm you can have a personal experience of what a vagina does when she has an orgasm because I am not going to tell you that.

Also put a little swag in your sex life. Make it so nice she wants to be by your place tomorrow. Guys always have a romantic atmosphere, a good flow of natural lubrication so that the delicate female parts don’t get sore, never forget to stimulate her clitoris no matter what you doing. Please bear in mind and forget whatever you guys think or how big you think you packing. Sexual intercourse by itself is not likely to produce an orgasm. This is because intercourse alone is not very good at stimulating the woman’s clitoris and nearly all females need additional stimulation of the clitoris by fingers or mouth.

So even if you are having sexual intercourse with your woman, reach out and stimulate her clitoris and your other hand should get busy on her breast or grabbing some of those her lovely curves. Don’t just ignore her body; work with every part that is exposed and don’t bore the crap out of her.

Remember these:

Don’t be in a rush because it’s a turn on for women if they see you know what you are doing

Don’t be too demanding – Love making is not an Olympic event

Always ask her what she wants but please don’t bore her out with questions. Just shut up and drive

Give her lots of kisses and cuddles before you make an approach to her sexual area

Take things gently and see what she wants

Use her own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris and learn how she masturbates because women have a specific way they stroke their clits just like every guy here knows how you jerk off his Johnny boy better. You learn from the owner just like we want to teach them how to hold yours.

Always remember that stimulation of the clitoris is the key to female orgasm weather by mouth or stroking it with your finger. So guys pop in some Marvin Gaye set the mode right and stop starving your woman an Orgasm. Please practice safe sex or stick to one sexual partner AIDS is real.

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